Heidi Grant Halvorson talks about the difference between a Be Good vs Get Better mindset. It’s relevant to anyone who is trying to learn a new skills
When you’re constantly thinking, ‘this is a test of my ability, this is a test of my competence and my worth,’ then it’s extremely stressful. We know from decades of research that this kind of thinking really sets people up for failure. It makes them vulnerable as soon as things get difficult, and life is full of difficult things. People with this mindset are more depressed, they’re more anxious, they’re more likely to to be helpless in the face of a setback.
When they feel depressed, they do things like sit on the couch and eat chips and watch television, and don’t take any action to improve anything because they believe they can’t. That there’s something wrong with them and that’s why things aren’t going well in their lives. If you’ve ever gotten really upset with yourself because something went wrong in a project you were working on, then you were probably thinking this way - that somehow you screwed up, you lack something, you don’t have what it takes.
There is an alternative. Instead of focusing on proving, you focus on improving. When you use this framework to think about everything you do, a really dramatic shift happens. Instead of demonstrating our skills, we focus on developing them. Instead of thinking about your performance relative to other people, people with a Get Better mindset say, “am I performing better than I did in the past?”
She goes on to give results from a study on how this might play out in real life. Get Better people tend to persist and this tends to lead to better performance. They also tend to take action when things are going poorly - “because they thought the point was to improve, they found a way to improve.”
The one-line take away is always compare yourself to yourself, not to other people.
On September 7th, 1982, Ogilvy sent the following internal memo to all agency employees, titled “How to Write”:The better you write, the higher you go in Ogilvy & Mather. People who think well, write well.
Woolly minded people write woolly memos, woolly letters and woolly speeches.
Occasionally, people in your life will defy the odds and actually care about you. Still not your stuff, sorry. But if they value you, they’ll value that you value it, and they’ll listen. When you talk about all of those things that nobody else cares about, they will look into your eyes and consume your words, and in that moment you will know that every part of them is there with you.
Fascinating must-see documentary on sampling, looping, and copyright.
Sunday quiz: How sinful are you? (For more info, click image or here; For a related post, click here http://christiannightmares.tumblr.com/post/40765019755/fun-game-of-the-day-how-many-sins-have-you)
Forgive me Father…
So happy to finally be able to share this one, it’s been done for almost a week (except for the snakes because i hate painting them). I’ve been working on an off on this one for the past month. It started as a sketch but I thought about developing it a bit since I haven’t had the time to paint digitally for a long.
Most of you may know about the myth of medusa, and I started this, simply, to paint a woman and because I thought medusa would be a cool character to paint. But before starting the sketch I decided to read a bit about her basically to try to know a bit more about the character I was about to paint.
Apparently there are various versions of the myth, but the one that caught my eye was the one from the Roman poet Ovid.
"In a late version of the Medusa myth, Ovid suggests that Medusa was once a beautiful woman, whose charms could rival those of Athena. When Poseidon sees Medusa praying in Athena’s temple, he is smitten and he ravishes her there. And when she was caught being raped by the "Lord of the Sea" Poseidon in Athena’s temple, Athena, enraged by this atrocity to her temple, transformed Medusa’s beautiful hair to serpents and made her face so terrible to behold that the mere sight of it would turn onlookers to stone. In Ovid’s telling, Perseus describes Medusa’s punishment by Minerva (Athena) as just and well earned, a testament to her continuing support of the male hierarchy. It is Medusa’s fault for attracting the lusty god of the sea, for as a female that is inherent in her nature"
After reading this I saw medusa differently. I would’ve probably drawn her evil-looking, enraged or in some sort of menacing pose, but after reading this last version I thought it’d be a better choice to draw her trying to show a different side of the character and trying to show the vulnerability of a woman who has been punished for being raped instead of punishing the rapist (and as stupid as this may sound, sadly, it still happens in some countries all over the world)
So, I made up a little story that i’m trying to show in this drawing: Medusa, crying, holding the head of the man he loves after she accidentaly turned him to stone, and holding a mirror with her other hand, ready to sacrifice herself in order to meet his lover again.
hope you like it!
(done in photoshop CS3 + wacom Bamboo Fun | no ref used | prints can be purchased HERE )
In my opinion, life is all about experiences. The great part about photography is that it gives me a reason to get out of the house and see things which I might not normally see. Visiting waterfalls, going to parks, concerts, or just walking around town. I’ve experienced many things because of photography that I might not have experienced otherwise. My best life advice is explore: visit new places and try new things.
Anyway, points arising:
1.This Venn diagram, supplied by Commander Chris Hadfield via a reader, does a much better job of explaining the issue than I did.
2. That won’t stop Americans confusing the issue, as the New York Times did last summer when it tweeted…
The simple explanation